Casual Sex (To Shagmate or not to shagmate)

I suppose it is because of the upsurge in AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases, but casual sex has become a taboo topic. And that is why i have chosen to speak about it. I am going to be candid and as always, I will call a spade a spade. If i upset certain people (and i am sure i will) then so be it. It wouldn't be worth writing if it did not evoke some kind of emotional response, good or bad.

When I look at some of the things that people sit and endure, just for the sake of being "in a relationship" or married, for that matter, when all they are really after is somebody to give them sex (good or bad)....just to be that close to somebody for 10 minutes (or 1, depending on who you are with), it makes me wonder; Are these people not better off with a shag mate? A fuck buddy. A no strings attached partner.

Let's look at the facts. If a guy comes over, for the sole purpose of being a sex partner, you REALLY don't need to be considerate to his ego and his feelings. If he is not delivering the goods, you can show him the door, with no hesitation. He is not delivering on his mandate. Recall the bugger. Can't do that with a "boyfriend". You are usually too tied into the relationship. As a a result, he can get away with giving you good sex, or average sex once a month.

Now, don't get me wrong, I am a great believer in relationships. But the relationship needs to be a good one. You need to feel loved and appreciated. And most of all, you need to be getting good sex (if sex is important to you). If you are not getting all of the above, ask yourself; "Why am I here?" And like i have said many times, if the only reason that you are with him is the below average sex, then I urge you to consider getting a formal shagmate arrangement elsewhere. Let's face it, your man is nothing but a shagmate anyway. A BAD shagmate.

A shagmate is not there to discuss how your day was. Nor is he there to bitch about HIS day. He is there for one thing and one thing only; to cater to your sexual needs. And he better do a good job if he knows what is good for him.

So, really, sometimes, you are better off walking away from Mr Nothing But Complaints and moving on to Mr Do You Right. All this, while you search for Mr Right. Believe me, you won't have that desperate look in your eyes and as such, you won't fall prey to ruthless players. And, of course, you won't be seeing the world through Cerebos covered eyes, so you will be a lot more critical and choosy about who you allow into your life.

So, dare i say it, a shagmate might just solve half the relationship issues out there.