Skin on Skin

I would like to put my views on this topic down, once and for all and never come back to it again.

In this day and age, if you have unprotected sex and you are not married....you are taking a risk. Hell, there is an element of risk in marriage as well. Unless you know where your partner is 24/7, there is always the possibility of him/her being out there, getting infected. So, have skin on skin with them and you have it too. No matter how well-behaved YOU might be. To be perfectly honest, even if you KNOW where your partner is, that won't stop them from cheating if they want to.

Take it from a man who has had shagmate arrangements, NEVER be fooled by the time frame. If he has an appointment with a shagmate, they could set up the time, he could be on the phone with you at 10h00, be inside her by 10h10 and be back on the phone with you by 10h30. Back in her at 10h35 and back on the phone with you at 11h00. And they would o their separate ways as if nothing ever happened. If somebody even breathes that your man might be cheating, what would you do? Laugh in their face! You were either with him, or on the phone with him ALL day. See, most people are still labouring under the impression that a person needs to "disappear" for them to be cheating. Not answer their phones and not come home. Your man can cheat on you every single day and still be back home at 17h00 on the dot every single day. Gentlemen, the ladies are equally capable.

Point is; Do not be lulled into a false of security. Rather keep it safe. If you are in a sable relationship and you absolutely feel compelled to have unprotected sex, do yourself a favour and both get tested. Regularly.

I hear the same excuse every single day; "The condom burst". Bullshit. Pull the other leg. Go sell stupid somewhere else, because I am not buying it. Unless you use condoms differently to me, condoms don't just burst all willy nilly. 8 out of 10 people who fall pregnant from "burst condoms" just were not wearing one at all. And here is another fun fact. Once the condom bursts (on the rare occasion when it does) most people will 1.Not stop. 2. Will not use condoms for the rest of that evening because "we are going to buy the morning after tomorrow anyway". How STUPID is that logic? That is like getting a smudge of mud on your clothes, then jumping into the mud pit because "I am already dirty and need to change anyway". Stupid.

Nobody is safe. The incident rates of HIV are alarmingly high among 20 something year olds. These are people who generally have access to all the information in the world. And they all have access to condoms, even the stinky free ones (I am still wondering what disgusting rubber they use on Choice condoms).

It is EVERYBODY's responsibility to make sure a condom is worn during sex. Ladies, you are more than welcome to debate the fact that you think the man should be responsible. And you might even win the argument. But the point is moot. The bottom line is; What good is it for me to sit there, talking to you after you have been infected or fallen pregnant and saying; "Yes, you were right...it was HIS responsibility." That is a hollow victory. Why don't you make sure it never gets to that. Keep a pack of 3 in those hue hand bags that you carry. The life you safe could be your own.