Q: I have a problem am so dam insecure abt everything I don't trust him at all. We've been together 4 a year the things is I waz cheated on by my X so I can't get the thoughts out of my head. How can I stop this its ruining our relship

So...basically, you are letting your ex's run your current relationship via remote control? How's THAT working out for you? Stop letting your pasts mess up your present. Your insecurity is going to drive your man away. And future men, for that matter.